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About the Kids Come First project

Kids Come First is a registered Community Interest Company established to provide support and training to separating or divorcing parents. As our name suggests, our mission is to focus on the needs of children experiencing family breakdown.

What lies at the heart of Kids Come First is the principle and belief that by helping parents cope well during this difficult, emotional time – indirectly, we help children cope better too! Parents who attend our workshops not only benefit from specialist support but also our customised, child-focused training program. With our practical guidance parents can discover how to work successfully towards co-parenting beyond the divorce process.

 Founders of Kids Come First, Steph Fattorini and Nicola Withycombe, worked alongside parents at various family mediation services for many years and were responsible for delivering a Cafcass training program to parents directed by the Family Courts.  For over a decade they have been listening to the voices of brave children and many distressed parents struggling with family breakdown issues. It became apparent that there is a desperate lack of therapeutic support readily accessible to separating parents and too few early intervention options available to consider before things possibly reached a hostile impasse.

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About Co-Founders, Nicola & Steph

Nicola spent several years working at a family mediation service and has worked with separated parents since 2010. Previous roles in global marketing and business management include major events, an EU educational program & a charity publication. She manages all aspects of Kids Come First C.I.C.

“I’m passionate about delivering   early intervention support & practical guidance for all separating parents to encourage new perspectives on family breakdown”

Steph is an accredited BACP therapist who works with children, adolescents, parents, adults and couples at her private practice in SW London. She has worked with children since 2005 and has extensive experience working in a Mediation Centre dealing with parents who are separating & divorcing. Providing  a calm, safe and empathic space, she seeks to increase all her clients self-awareness & self esteem, boosting confidence and helping them understand past influences.

“I use a wholesome and organic approach tailored to the needs of all our clients”        

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Parents comments about our workshops:

“I cannot tell you how much I appreciate your program” – R.D. (Jan 2019)

“Thanks so much for your time – I thought the session was excellent and insightful.” – A.L. (Nov 2018)

Thank you for your help. It was very positive. I felt that the service you provided was really personalised.” – B.F. (Aug 2018)

“Amazing workshop that every separated parent must go to!” – T.S. (Jan 2018)

“I can’t thank you both enough for helping us transition to a separated family. It is an incredibly hard process and your help and reassurance helped us so much.” – H.P. (Sept 2017) 

“Very good workshop. I found it very productive.” V.W. (July 2017)

“The course helped me refocus and is a great touchstone in an emotionally loaded and complicated situation” C.T. (April 2016)

“Great course, great value, great presenters. Thank you!” – Lisa R (Nov 2015)

“Two great presenters made a great team, easy to listen & talk to. Would love to do this again in a few years” – Andy G (Oct 2015)

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